Pursue a more unlimited concept of yourself

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

If you are really ready to pursue a more unlimited concept of yourself, to explore your Silent Master consciousness, to become the creative driver of your life, then you are now ready to start exploring the tools and disciplines you will need along this path. In the next chapter we will do just that. We'll see that these tools and disciplines help you increase the energy you apply in creating your life.

What could be more worthy of your efforts than the discovery and fulfillment of your true being? I like the parable in the Bible which talks about the discovery of your real being:

The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field...Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls. When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it. (Matthew 13:44-45)

Your Silent Master consciousness is like the pearl of great value for which you will sell all to possess.

This is because when you possess the consciousness that is the source of all, you likewise possess all. Isn't it worth your time and effort to discover this powerful aspect of your consciousness and begin to use it constructively?

Choice

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

CHOICE

At the start of your journey to Self Discovery, you want to shake hands with your power of choice and love, and protect it forever. The person you are today is based on how you've chosen in the past to respond to your environment, to the people you've known, and to your own thoughts and feelings. The person you will be tomorrow is based on the choices you make regarding these same things right now. As long as you remain aware that your development depends on choices you make right now, you stay in the driver's seat to invite change and growth. But as long as you regard your present self as “just the way you are," as some sort of reality set in cement, you shut down the Self Discovery process.

The fact is, you are as open as your choices are. You can choose to open and grow, you can choose one new goal after another, you can choose to abandon one way of life for another, you can choose to devote yourself to any reasonable pursuit. Or, you can choose to say "I can't." Your consciousness is standing behind your choices with the creative force to drive it into form.

Forgiveness Brings Healing

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Here's a simple illustration of Two Neighborhoods that shows how forgiveness and letting go of condemnation or guilt brings healing.

Once there were two neighborhoods whose residents were constantly fighting. An argument between them had started many years before, and since that time they had always been at odds with each other.

Members from one neighborhood would not associate in any way with members from the opposite neighborhood. They had been separated for so long that nobody in one neighborhood knew anything about anybody in the other neighborhood. (

One day, one of the neighborhoods started having problems with their well. Slowly, they were losing their water. Everyone in that neighborhood worked to try and fix the problem, but it got worse. A few weeks later they were out of water completely. It looked like they would lose everything they had worked for, their farm, their cattle.

Finally, when the situation became desperate, their only option was to speak with the other neighborhood about their problem. Swallowing their pride, the people approached the other neighborhood. As they walked, visions of being ridiculed and rejected were in their minds, but their only hope was to try anyway.

To Be Continued…

Forgiveness Brings Healing, continued...

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Continued From Prior Post…

The elders who had been part of the original dispute cautiously entered the hall where the elders of the other neighborhood were gathered.  They explained their situation, and then waited anxiously as the council conferred.

To their amazement, the elders were sympathetic and compassionate. They volunteered their help and they offered to share their well.

Together, the neighborhoods came to meet this challenge. They worked together to build canals and irrigation. Each discovered admirable qualities in the other, and grew so close in their endeavors that they became inseparable.

In somewhat the same way as these two neighborhoods, we have become separated from our true Self, our Silent Master. We forget how and why we became so separated. In this story, this is symbolized by the well drying up. Sooner or later, however, some event usually turns us back to our Silent Master. Maybe it's some kind of illness or failure that makes us seek our Silent Master again, or maybe it's a natural desire to simply know our real Self. Whatever the reason, when we seek to find our real Self, we may be filled with doubt and guilt, and we might feel undeserving or afraid to turn within for healing. But if we do, our Silent Master greets us with healing and love, just as the elders of the opposing neighborhood, not with rejection. And just as the two groups prospered greatly when they worked together, you can prosper with renewed power and strength when you join forces with your Silent Master. As the Silent Master image at the start of this chapter indicates, the immaterial aspect of yourself, your spiritual being, is intimately involved in the life you create, because matter and spirit exist at the same time.

Your Silent Master Consciousness knows Itself to be immaterial in substance, but It also takes form (manifests) as your physical body and the material world around you. Thus, you may describe yourself as being both immaterial (spiritual) and material (physical) at the same time.

This is why your Silent Master consciousness is so accessible to you. The return to your Silent Master consciousness is a return to an aspect of yourself that exists within you right now - right where you are.

Let Go of Self-Condemnation and Guilt

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Let Go of Self-Condemnation and Guilt

Most people are much too hard on themselves. When you see you've made a mistake, you don't have to pound yourself further into the ground. You need love not condemnation, not punishment when you recognize that you need to make a change. Self condemnation and guilt prevent learning, because they keep you focused on what's wrong instead of on what's right. Condemnation and guilt form a negative emotional cloud that encourages and attracts more wrongdoing rather than healing.

One of the first steps to take in letting go of the past - and getting ready for a new life - is to realize you don't need to feel guilty forever and ever. Guilt has a purpose for a little while. It makes you realize you need to change. But once you take action to create change, guilt is no longer purposeful. In fact, at that point, it's obstructive. So if you're ready to make a change right now, first let go of the guilt. Realize that your guilt is a feeling about something that's over. Whatever the "fault" or whatever the mistake, it isn't a part of the true you now. It's over. It's gone. Begin the process of healing with feelings of joy instead.

Maintain a Forgiving Attitude

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Once you have begun to set goals that go beyond your present concept of yourself, you may have to work hard at letting go of your past. A big part of the readiness phase of Self Discovery is the elimination of the old to make room for the new. This may require much forgiveness on your part, because forgiveness is the way you release the past. You cannot change a situation if you keep holding onto it with negative emotion. You must forgive, release, and sacrifice feelings of condemnation in order to change any bad situation in your life.

Forgiving yourself is as important as forgiving others. You never need to condemn yourself or anyone else for mistakes. You simply learn whatever you need to learn, let it go, and then move on to create a new reality.

Unfortunately, forgiveness can seem to demand the ultimate unwilling sacrifice. So much tempts us to hate and resent and be angry when we feel wronged. We don't easily sacrifice those feelings, and forgiveness almost seems to hurt when we're called upon to do it. But if you can do it, you find release, not loss. With forgiveness, you find freedom to create the new unhindered by past impressions.

And perhaps what may be harder than forgiving others is forgiving yourself. The main obstacle in forgiving yourself is guilt. If you think back to your childhood, you'll remember that condemnation was probably the most common way of dealing with wrongdoing. Most of us have been taught that when we did something wrong, we should be condemned before being forgiven, and maybe not even forgiven! Most of us were not taught that doing something wrong should be an opportunity for education, or an opportunity for creating a better solution.

Realistic Expectations Turn into Goals

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Somehow, as time goes by, we become impressed with the accomplishments of others, and conclude that we cannot express them ourselves. We usually find pretty good excuses why we can't, and continue to keep ourselves limited. "He Can Do, She Can Do, Why Not Me?" In this saying is encouragement to develop the attitude of always anticipating success. The arrow of this attitude takes you in the direction of accomplishment.

Realistic Expectations Turn into Goals

When you are willing to have reasonable expectations, setting goals is the next logical step to take. If you are willing to be receptive and open minded, and have high expectations, you won't be afraid to set a goal, even if it presently seems out of reach.

In the readiness stage of Self Discovery, what stands most in the way of setting goals is your concept of yourself. This is why it is so important to have an open mind when you set goals. I have heard people say over and over things like: "I'm a very good organizer, but I'm not at all creative." Or: "I think I'm a pretty good mechanic, but I could never be a computer programmer." These comments demonstrate what I mean by holding a full cup. These people have sealed their own fate with their own limited belief. In the first comment, we not only have a statement that is self limiting, but one that is also outright contradictory. The ability to bring organization into a state of confusion is not the opposite of creativity. Organizing is a highly creative process. How often we limit ourselves by how we define concepts!

Maintain an Attitude of Anticipating Success

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

When you do this shower meditation to eliminate negative thoughts and feelings, you are taking action to form an empty cup attitude. Remember, however, that to become empty does not mean you become a void. In fact, the process of sacrificing your negative traits is best carried out through positive affirmation, not through negation. Instead of saying, "I am not sad," you say, "I am full of natural joy belonging to the consciousness of my Silent Master." Your empty cup will be filled by your positive declarations about your true self.

Maintain an Attitude of Anticipating Success

Since you co-create with the energy of thought and feeling, I say have a large empty cup! Have unlimited thought about what you can accomplish. Have unlimited expectations for yourself.

Of course, when I say unlimited, I don't mean unreasonable. The fact is, your Silent Master will not give you unreasonable desires, but will give you your true desires. When I say that you should have unlimited expectations, I mean don't let anything limit the possibility of making your true desires come to life.

Shower Meditation

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

You may not feel uninhibited enough to do something like a freedom dance in your own house. But here's something you can do every day to help create and maintain your empty cup: take a shower!  Even if you don't have time to meditate, your shower can be a time for some valuable work for yourself. Since showering is an activity you usually do mindlessly, try doing it with thought and some enjoyable visualization.
 
Being ready for change ready for Self Discovery often means putting yourself in an environment that supports you. In this way, you are motivated by your environment instead of obstructed by it.

Imagine that you're on a tropical island, and that your shower is actually a rushing waterfall surrounded by beautiful tropical flowers and birds. Gentle winds are blowing a clear blue sky shows above. The falling water is clean, clear, sparkling with energy. As you stand there, the water flowing down on your body, you feel yourself open to receive the fresh, new energy in the water. 
Using your soap, you feel the falling water wash away your anxiety, your tension, your worries, your regrets, your frustrations. You feel the cleansing action washing away everything that clouds you or hurts you or limits you. You feel yourself becoming more and more free, more relaxed, more happy, more peaceful the soap and sparkling water are washing away all your negativity. Let yourself believe the water and soap actually can do that for you. When the water goes down the drain, let yourself imagine that the ill will, the hostility, the resentment, the anger, the stubbornness, the laziness, the jealousy, whatever, goes well away from you forever.
 
Do the same thing when you brush your teeth. As you rinse your mouth, let the water wash away the harsh words, the mistaken words, the words you may regret. When you wash your hair, let the shampoo wash away all the feelings and attitudes you've taken on which don't come from your true self, and cleanse all the actions you took that are now "on your head." What do you want to get "out of your hair?" As you dry yourself with the towel, think of your body and mind as now being new. This clean, new body is like a new sun rising on a new day. Yesterday is washed away.

Maintain a Receptive Attitude

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Maintain a Receptive Attitude

One of the activities in the Self-Discovery Weekends is the Freedom Dance. In this exercise, I ask students to abandon themselves in joyful free form movement around a fire for a symbolic shedding of the past. Because many people are unnecessarily critical (self-conscious) of themselves, this dance is designed to foster the receptive attitude needed to pursue true Self Discovery.

As mentioned in Chapter One, the willingness to be open and receptive to a new concept of yourself and a new life is an attitude that I call the empty cup. If you think you already know everything, if you think you already know yourself in total, your cup is already full and cannot hold anything new. This readiness being open and receptive to a new direction is a quality you obviously need every day, not just once in your life when you decide to pursue your true self.

ATTITUDE

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

ATTITUDE

We have seen how your will power is like an engine that drives you along your path and how motivation is like the fuel feeding the engine; think of attitude as that which determines the quality of the fuel.

Positive attitudes are like high energy fuel, such as high octane gas. Negative attitudes are like impure gasoline. When you put this kind of gasoline into your car, you will undoubtedly see trouble in the engine before long. Just so, negative attitudes create obstruction and conflict in your life.

Attitudes are important at the start of your Self Discovery process because they help determine the quality of your manifestations. Positive attitudes ensure that your will and motivation remain pure and powerful so that you create constructive forms in your life, forms which promote progress and acceleration and reflect the love, peace, and harmony of your true self.

He Can Do, She Can Do, Why Not Me?

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Always Remember:  He Can Do, She Can Do, Why Not Me?

We’ve discussed how bad habits can feel like such a part of you that you begin to think that they are you.  You must overcome this belief right at the start of the readiness stage, or you will be likely to sabotage your best efforts.In my Jung SuWon teaching, I have a saying that goes: He Can Do, She Can Do, Why Not Me? All your negative false beliefs can be changed because they do not reflect the true potential of your original self. Over and over again, my students have proved that they can do what seems impossible. After they enter a positive, supportive environment, they start to get in touch with the real and pure ideas of their true Self. They begin to feel the power of the words I can and I will and I know that come from their Silent Master consciousness. Which is more difficult? Breaking ten bricks with your bare hands or asking your boss for a raise? For some, breaking the ten bricks is easier.
One of my students weighed around 300 pounds when she enrolled in my Jung SuWon classes. When it came to time to do one of the exercises a simple tumbling move, forward rolls on a mat she quite naturally answered the question "Why Not Me?" with "Because I'm too fat!" To her surprise, she did it! What happened? She responded to the atmosphere of encouragement and accomplishment, and joined with others “who were creating success. And this victory gave her confidence to go on and create more victories. As you might expect, she's not 300 pounds any more.
Being ready for change ready for Self Discovery often means putting yourself in an environment that supports you. In this way, you are motivated by your environment instead of obstructed by it.

Your true self is already pure and true

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Usually there is an all too human tendency to give in to your past, unwanted Self-Concept even while you're trying to change it. When it comes time to let go of Self-Concepts like I'm an angry person, I'm a worrier, I'm a sad person, I'm a sick person, I'm a “workaholic, or even, I'm a doctor, I'm a waiter, or whatever, this may feel like a supreme sacrifice. Since your present self is all you know, you may feel like the sacrifice of your undesirable traits, whatever they are, is a loss, not a gain. You may feel you're losing yourself.
Willing sacrifice is important in Self Discovery, and difficult, because often you have to let go before you see the gain. You don't necessarily get to look before you leap into a new Self-Concept. There is a beautiful passage from the Bible:
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know in full, even as I am fully known. (I Corinthians 13:11-12)
It is not what we put on that tells us who we are; it is what we take off that lets us see who we already are. We see "but a poor reflection as in a mirror” when we look at ourselves through the mistakes, hurt, pain, guilt, and the opinions of others in the past.  We see “face to face” when we become clear and transparent, and look within through the eyes of our Silent Master consciousness  Then we see and feel who we already are in truth now.
Your true self is already pure and true.  When you sacrifice your negative traits, you clear the way to see who you really are.

Be Willing To Sacrifice a Worn-Out Self-Concept

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

The third principle of mental conduct forms the foundation for your willingness: You have the ability to do, the capacity to act, and the capability to perform and produce. If you didn't have ability, capacity and capability, you wouldn't have any motivation to change; whether or not you were willing to change wouldn't matter because you wouldn't have the ability. But since you do have these qualities, you must be willing to allow them to manifest, willing to encourage them to manifest. Here are some ways to do that.

Be Willing To Sacrifice a Worn-Out Self-Concept

You may say, "Of course, I'm willing to change. I want a new life. I want to become who I really am." You may feel highly motivated.  
It's good that you say these words, but putting these words into action requires letting go of old Self-Concepts that may be bound tightly to your personality. This is why I stress the inner power step of sacrifice as you get ready for Self Discovery. Your willingness to change must be accompanied by a strong motivation to sacrifice certain aspects of yourself that are not truly you.

Just as you need to make your will pure and strong to start you on your path, your motivation must be pure and strong at the start to help you from swerving from your path.

How am I willing to change?

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

For instance, if you're saying on the one hand, "I really want to lose weight," and you're saying on the other hand, "I can't live or be happy unless I eat everything I want," you're going to be in a struggle, unable to fully commit. If you feel yourself wanting to become a new person, but experience resistance and struggle, let this tell you that you are holding some concepts that will have to go because they are opposing your true intent of true Self Discovery. You will not need to fight with yourself to eliminate the Self-Concepts that stand in the way. But you will need to cling to the truth about yourself with focused commitment. 

MOTIVATION

We have just discussed the role of constructive will power in the readiness stage of self discovery. We have seen that when you're ready to discover your true self, your will is the engine that starts you and drives you through to the end. Your will is the force that gets you moving with a quality purpose and keeps you moving forward so that you don't give up. Now, what is the role of motivation at the readiness stage?

When you use your will to become willing, you can become highly motivated. This is the open state of mind you need to start your journey. Being willing allows you to be highly motivated because you don't set up ways to stop yourself before you start. To find out how motivated you really are, ask yourself: What obstacles am I willing to overcome to reach my goal? What am I willing to learn? How am I willing to change?

Will Doesn't Have to Be Struggle

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

How much time we waste in fretting over our mistakes! All this does is keep us dwelling on the past, and this brings the unwanted past into the present.

How important it is, then, when you're ready to pursue your Silent Master consciousness, to let go of your mistakes, and use your will to focus on a new direction. Look at your mistakes, see what you learned, but then let them go.

Will Doesn't Have to Be Struggle

You may have to persist when you are trying to hold onto an idea or a goal you wish to manifest. But persistence doesn't necessarily involve a struggle. The exercise of will should be a calm, persistent focus that doesn't allow a feeling of resistance. The exercise of will should not have to be a battle.

If you feel a struggle when you exert your will, there may be old habits or false beliefs that you need to let go of. The sense of struggling to hold an idea is a signal to you that you are simultaneously holding an equal, opposite idea about what you want to manifest and that's why you feel the struggle. When the energy of two equal and opposing ideas are given the same attention, you will naturally feel a conflict.

Be willing to make mistakes

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

When I say be willing to make mistakes, I mean let your mistake lead you into new understandings and new actions. As long as you're making different mistakes, you can be sure you're on a path of learning. It's a natural part of the process. Of course, you don't want to keep repeating the same mistakes. If that happens, it's a signal you're not learning from the mistake the way you should.
All that you judge to be a mistake in your life is nothing more and nothing less than an event which teaches you something. Unfortunately, we usually label our mistakes as bad things that happen, as opposed to good things that happen. But judgments of good and bad are unnecessary. “Whatever you call a mistake is really just neutral feedback about the result of a certain direction you've taken. Whether an event or a direction is judged to be good or bad is probably beyond your perception at the moment. To illustrate what I mean, consider the following scenario.

Suppose you're laid off from your job. Bad? But then someone offers you a new job that pays more money. Good? But then you find at this new job you work for a tyrannical boss. Bad? But then this boss retires and turns the business over to you. Good? But then the building catches fire and burns down. Bad? But then you collect insurance money that lets you start the business you always wanted. Good? But then...but then...Life in this material dimension will always be a succession of "but thens."

In this example, you can see how all the events taken by themselves are neither good nor bad even though you may judge them so. They are simply a series of events leading in a certain direction, and all judgments of good or bad are totally irrelevant in the long run. Losing your job in the beginning was “not a mistake because it ultimately opened you to the business you always wanted.

Regard Mistakes as Teachers, Not Judges

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Regard Mistakes as Teachers, Not Judges

You can also use your will power to employ the second rule of mental conduct: Learn from your mistakes.

So often, when we do something that we believe is a mistake, we become fatalistic and give up our efforts. Instead of focusing on a new direction right away, we tend to sit around in gloom and doom criticizing ourselves. In this instance, we're using mistakes as excuses not to face up to fears and weaknesses. 

Rather than allowing your mistakes to be reasons for continuing failure, allow your mistakes to be used as learning feedback. In fact, mistakes are as real, valid, and viable as successes when you're growing and learning.

You make mistakes any time you do something new. If you already knew how to do something without making mistakes, it wouldn't be new! It would already be a habit. So let mistakes be friendly teachers, the fertilizer for growth.

"I Can" or "I Can't" - The Choice is Yours

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more.  Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

(Continued from the previous post...)

On and on he went with only one thought in his mind: the safety of the child. Nothing else mattered, not fear, weariness, hunger. On and on he ran 'til in the distance he could see his friends still moving quickly. He was so close, only a little further to go to reach them.Before long, he caught them, stumbling into their midst with the precious baby, gasping for breath. The others were amazed at this feat and wondered where he had found the strength to run with the child and catch them. But they could see his face was filled with a resoluteness and determination they hadn't seen before.
Gently, he handed the child to the mother who took back the little body lovingly. Her heart was filled with joy, both for her child and for the old man. Together they continued onward, away from the enemy until they were safe and secure. 

 In this story, the old man found that he created two different paths based on two different choices.
"I can't" made him fall by the wayside convinced that his life was at an end, and so it would have been.

"I can" enabled him to get up, find strength available within himself, and run to victory.

Both were real and valid possibilities. What made the difference between these two choices? We might say this woman did what a good teacher does. She gave the man an opportunity to discover and demonstrate the strength he had inside. Then the old man did his part. He used his will to conquer his weakness and defeatism. He did find the strength within to carry out his mission. He chose how to respond to the opportunity, and used his will to choose victory over defeat.

Although this story shows how a particular situation can be an opportunity to overcome limitation, true and lasting change requires effort that goes beyond just one situation. One victory doesn't solve every problem. To create lasting change, one victory must lead to new ways of thinking and acting.

Realize That "I Can't" Usually Means "I Won't"

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more.  Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Realize That "I Can't" Usually Means "I Won't"

All of us, at some time or another, have felt the limiting power of "I can't." Even when we really want something, and even if that something is within our power, those two simple words can prevent it from happening. When you find yourself saying "I can't" look deeper to see if you're making another excuse. If you look honestly, you will usually find that your words, "I can't" actually mean "I could, but I won't for this or that reason." For instance, "I can't do well in school" might easily mean, "I could do well in school, but I won't put in the time and effort to study." When you become willing to say "I can," you find the power to carry it out from your Silent Master within. 

 Here's a story of an Old Man and a Baby that illustrates what I mean.

During a war, a group of people were fleeing from the enemy. Among them was an old man and a woman with a baby. For many days they ran and hid, always with the enemy close behind and danger from every corner.

As they ran, others in the group helped the mother carry the baby, except for the old man who was already very weak.

After a few days the old man was so tired he just couldn't go on. He fell by the side of the road and lay there breathless.

The others stopped to help, but he urged them on, asking them to just leave him there. He had given up all will to live, all desire for life or the future.

The enemy was fast approaching, so the others were anxious to move on. The woman with baby then looked down at the old man and said, "It's your turn. Everyone else has helped carry the baby. Now it's your turn. You must fulfill your responsibility."

To Be Continued...

Feelings of limitation are so unnecessary

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more.  Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

 

 If you really want to change your life, you may have to see that what you're really getting out of these beliefs is an excuse not to face up to some fear or weakness you have. As long as you believe you're lazy, will you focus your will on going to school to learn something new? No, because if you're afraid of failing, you won't test yourself in school. As long as you believe you're shy, will you use your will power to seek out a new, more fulfilling career where you have to meet many people? No, because if you're afraid to talk to others you'll keep your undesirable present job where there are few people. In both of these situations, you are afraid, not really lazy, and not really shy.

But feelings of limitation are so unnecessary.  Fear can be conquered!

Weakness can be overcome.

Each time you use your will power to stand up and throw yourself into the face of another “I can't,” you are getting ready for a victory. So in the readiness stage of self discovery, you begin to identify your fears and weaknesses, and start to confront them. 

Use Your Will to Conquer Fears and Weaknesses

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more.  Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Use Your Will to Conquer Fears and Weaknesses

 

Although some kind of shock is often a common way to rouse will power, it is not the only way. Sometimes you can summon your will simply from an intense desire to overcome stagnant, limited, or stifling circumstances. In this case, you have to be willing to let go of the past, and let go of your fears and weaknesses. These things have to go because they have kept you from moving in a positive direction.

Make the first rule of mental conduct a constant way of life: Identify your fears and weaknesses and conquer them. 

Instead of being inflexible like the scorpion and regarding your bad habits as "just your nature," or "just the way you are," why not try another approach? Let's assume for a moment that your negative traits are beliefs that you have adopted about yourself, and that you can use your will power to begin the process of conquering them. If you have beliefs like "I'm lazy," "I'm shy," "I'm useless," "I'm poor," "I'm stupid," let's ask: what do you get out of it? If you're holding onto to these beliefs so tightly, you must be getting something you think you want. But is it happiness you're getting? Success? Achievement? Growth?  

 I really doubt if you're getting anything good from these beliefs.