Realistic Expectations Turn into Goals

Dr Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, an author, a speaker and much more. Here is an excerpt from her book, The Silent Master.

Somehow, as time goes by, we become impressed with the accomplishments of others, and conclude that we cannot express them ourselves. We usually find pretty good excuses why we can't, and continue to keep ourselves limited. "He Can Do, She Can Do, Why Not Me?" In this saying is encouragement to develop the attitude of always anticipating success. The arrow of this attitude takes you in the direction of accomplishment.

Realistic Expectations Turn into Goals

When you are willing to have reasonable expectations, setting goals is the next logical step to take. If you are willing to be receptive and open minded, and have high expectations, you won't be afraid to set a goal, even if it presently seems out of reach.

In the readiness stage of Self Discovery, what stands most in the way of setting goals is your concept of yourself. This is why it is so important to have an open mind when you set goals. I have heard people say over and over things like: "I'm a very good organizer, but I'm not at all creative." Or: "I think I'm a pretty good mechanic, but I could never be a computer programmer." These comments demonstrate what I mean by holding a full cup. These people have sealed their own fate with their own limited belief. In the first comment, we not only have a statement that is self limiting, but one that is also outright contradictory. The ability to bring organization into a state of confusion is not the opposite of creativity. Organizing is a highly creative process. How often we limit ourselves by how we define concepts!